tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19015047013088698.post3959389422124928955..comments2023-05-07T11:53:04.503-04:00Comments on From the edge of insanity: We send, they send.JChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08428589549317721775noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19015047013088698.post-33995874885809281712010-12-14T12:22:37.193-05:002010-12-14T12:22:37.193-05:00thanks for the comment, racilous. I think my appr...thanks for the comment, racilous. I think my apprehension about Cam not wanting contact comes from how I HATED having to spend time with my biological Dad. He and my parents divorced when I was a baby, and he was just an irresponsible flake who was never on time and kept me waiting when I could be outside with friends. My mom forced me to go, and her mantra to this day is (in a very martyred voice) "I thought I was doing what was best."<br /><br />Knowing what I know, I will be super vigilant about Cam's feelings and how she handles things. I am really getting the cart ahead of the horse though, we've only had one letter. I am already thinking about visits...lol.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08428589549317721775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19015047013088698.post-54006232092927957142010-12-13T16:34:24.826-05:002010-12-13T16:34:24.826-05:00When I started in the open adoption route, I was a...When I started in the open adoption route, I was always amazed when adoptive parents were excited that a birth mom was participating. But of course the reason we all put in the effort - so our children can get answers about their whole story - would be just as important if not more for the adoptive parents. <br /><br />I am always interested in the idea of whether a child would want an open adoption. As a child there were many things (from eating vegetables to having to be on the swim team) that I didn't think I wanted, but in the end, I'm glad my parents made me continue with it. I think if you believe in this open adoption and the amazing things that can come from it, that you should have faith in your decisions to pursue it. Even if there are times where it seems like Cam doesn't want it (I've seen a lot of talk about kids asking hard questions around the age of 4 or 5), as long as it's not hurting her, I do think when she's fully grown she will thank you for pushing through the hard times and making it work. <br /><br />And I hope your Christmas Wish comes true this year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com